Oct 2, 2019
Alice is joined by guest co-host Allison McKnight (@thatmcknight) and N.S.F.W. sex club owner, Daniel Saynt (@danielsaynt). Sex club info and etiquette , religious repression, sex club themes, and more.
0:09
Welcome to Two girls one Mic the podcast whose sex club rules are
exactly the same as Fight Club, and coincidentally also run by
Joseph Gordon Levitt with dissociative identity disorder.
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So hot
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actually was really hot. It's a newest club in New York actually.
So with me, you guys are probably hearing a familiar voice. That is
the voice of my beautiful guest co host, Allison McKnight from our
et episode, Alison, how you doing today? I am
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doing that's about as far as I got. But now you said Joseph Gordon
Levitt, so I'm doing better.
0:48
Does anyone have any connections to him that we know of? I'd like
to be connected to him. Daniel, how about you? Do you have any
connections to
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him? Don't reveal any member details. Oh,
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No. Oh, I forgot to introduce myself. Guys. I'm your host, Alice
Vaughn. And with me You guys are hearing Daniel St. He is. And I
have never heard this job title before chief conspirator of ns, Fw
the new society for wellness, new society
1:19
for wellness. It's really good when you can make up your own title.
It's really it's really helpful. You can have some fun with
1:24
what are the other options?
1:27
I don't think there are any, there really were any other ones. I
mean, this felt like such an underground thing from the beginning.
So conspirator just made sense. And before I was like, kind of open
and public about doing this, that was what was used in press. So it
certainly felt right.
1:41
It feels like you should have a more significant role in some sort
of elaborate, I don't know, international scheme.
1:48
Yeah, that's literally what we're trying to do.
1:51
Very public about it.
1:54
Yeah, change sex perceptions around the world. Why not?
1:56
So yeah, so you run a sex club and we've actually never had Sex
club owner on this show before.
2:03
For some of our listeners, you want to give a quick definition of a
sex club, like a rundown description, something to kind of give
them context.
2:10
Yeah. So I mean, I think a lot of people think of sex club as a
place where you go to have sex, that's a big part of it for us, we
kind of do a lot more around the space. So not only we hosting
events where sex is allowed, and sex is okay to have we do
education around sex. So we teach about BDSM to Tantra, we teach
about touch relationships, how to be in open relationships, how to
ask for sex, so we're constantly covering different subjects in the
world of sex. So it's a sex club, in the sense of, it's all about
sex, but it's more different from what people would traditionally
think of when they think of a sex club and the audience that we
attract. And the people that are here is very, very different from
any other sex club that exist around the world. So it's kind of
unique in that way. We like to call it a love club, because there's
more focused on that than anything else.
2:57
How did you even get into this industry? I'm curious. Yes,
3:01
well, my background is actually in fashion. I started off as a
fashion blogger then became really popular, took over for marketing
for a big handbag line, which did very, very well and maybe a
little bit famous in that space. And then started an agency where I
was representing digital influencers, and then bought a magazine
called nylon and then realize I hated fashion and consumerism and
trying to get people to buy things that didn't actually make them
happy. And I wanted to apply my skills to something that could make
people happy. So I decided to focus on sex and cannabis. But that's
just one of the reasons why I started as a W. It's like it's very,
there's so many factors into it. Like around the time I was coming
out as bisexual, I wanted to be more open with my sexuality and
talk about it. I felt like there wasn't really anyone out there
who's male bisexual who's like, you know, presenting and being open
and honest about it. So that was a big factor. I just got through a
divorce, which was very, very difficult, very connected to my
bisexuality, which was unfortunate, but I kind of felt a need to, I
don't know, bring people together and teach them about sex and like
make it less scary. Make less time Boo, make it a community make it
a place where you know that people are coming, you know, they're
behaving a certain way and you know that it's safe. So yeah, and so
Toby kind of sparked from all that. I had a very religious
background, which helped with it because you just kind of realize
how kind of backward some of that stuff is and how detrimental
shame is for people in general and teaching them to live more
shamelessly teaching them to be more proud about who they are and
more comfortable with their sexuality is a very key element of, I
guess, the programming that we try to instill in our members and
try to teach them that it's okay to be sexual.
4:33
That's awesome. So we went from fashion to influencers to sex
clubs, I mean, trying to feel like I feel like that's not even a
hard jump.
4:42
I mean, it really was, I don't know I had done it like secretly for
like two years just testing it out, testing out all the classes and
events and things I want to create, and just building the community
initially from like my friend group and people I knew. So we have a
lot of people who are kind of in the fashion industry or models or
you know, in those Kind of media driven industries, which was nice.
It's what a lot of us get so much of the press that we got. So
we've been very fortunate to build a really cool community, a very
interesting community, very influential community. And now we're
kind of taking that forward and pushing more into politics and
pushing more into how we change the law and how we change the way
people approach sex. Yeah, that's kind of the most of it. I mean,
there's so much stuff going on here. Like it's really, it's a
little insane where the company is right now. And what we've built
is, it's just very interesting. It's like, I've hosted over a 500
play parties. I've seen so many people having sex, and so we will
share their sex lives and so many people share the things that, you
know, could they kind of discover the gain from it, and it's just
encouraging. Like, I feel like we'll have these all around the
world at some point.
5:45
You mentioned that yours is different than other sex clubs. I'll be
frank, I've never visited a sex club. So I don't know that
different types. Allison, do you have more experience here?
5:54
I do have more experience. Yes, but they're all different. So
that's why I am Tim because like when I mentioned sex clubs to
friends, they're like, what happens at sex clubs? Are they make
some stupid joke and they're all different and who's running them
changes Exactly. And what their focus is what their rules are.
6:13
Yeah, I think before I started NSFW, probably around the age of 16,
I started going to sex clubs and just seeing what was out there.
You know, being bisexual, go to gay clubs, go to St spaces, kind of
really getting a feel for what was available. And I travel the
world a lot. So I went to a lot of international spaces. And I kind
of just came up to this realization that a lot of the sex that's
available for men is just not available for women. And a lot of the
spaces that exists, we're just not safe. It was a lot of consent
violations. I've been sexually assaulted multiple times, raped
multiple times. And it just became something where it didn't feel
like that was the place that people would discover sexuality.
That's not the place where people are going to feel comfortable
exploring their sexuality or enjoying it or trying new things. So
it kinda was just seeing like, there wasn't a place in the market
space that really catered to women specifically, but also cater to
those who want to exist in a space where consent is respected. And
enthusiastic consent is practice. And before anyone touches you,
they ask and a woman can come solo and walk around naked and not
feel harassed, you know. So it was going through those experiences
negatively positively seeing what I enjoyed seeing what I liked,
and picking and choosing things that made sense. And then, over the
past five years of building this really setting the model for how
people should engage in group sex, how people should engage in
these activities. And in doing so, you know, over 2000 members, we
get about 600 people applying each month. It's been rapidly
growing. We're looking at multiple cities now, including LA,
London, Paris, and Israel. With just opportunities to open up and
build this there. We're building out our franchise model we just
did our first round of fundraising. It's crazy. It's hard to
describe how much the market needed this and how much they've
responded to it.
7:54
How do you select from your applicants and then how do you onboard
them to your consent rules? And any other rules you have in
place
8:01
also been what's a little curious? What's application process even
look like? Yeah, I've never had to apply for a sex club. Is this
more? This is more serious than a Tinder profile, I'm guessing.
8:12
Oh, yeah, it's way more serious. And it's in your profile. You
know, for most places, it's really anyone can go. So there's not
really an application process. The people that you're around can be
just random people. There's a lot of like smaller private play
groups that have a curated group, but it's mostly people who are
either part of that Burning Man camp or like kind of just swingers
who swing with them. For us the application process goes through a
lot. We have a group members called the council They are the ones
who kind of observed members at the events to see how they're
behaving and how they're interacting. beforehand. The Counselor
reviews all the membership applications people provide their social
media profiles, they provide ultimate fantasies, they provide what
they're into. There's over 46 things they can choose from it's you
know, men, women, non binary trans like literally everyone's
allowed to apply. Enjoy And we have all that representation within
our club, which is great. When they give us their ultimate
fantasies, it lets us know about what they're trying to accomplish,
where they are in their sexual journey. And what they're trying to
do, when they give us how they identify, lets us know, like on the
scale, in a sense of Kinsey scale, but a little bit more advanced,
exactly where they are in the spectrum of sex and how much they're
gonna enjoy the experience or how they're going to interact with
it. And then they share how they can contribute, which is really
great. Because you get lawyers, you get people who are very
influential in a lot of things, you get people who have wealth and
other things. But you also get artists you get creatives, you get
people who are want to add to the process of what we're doing. So
we have a better understanding of them. When we look through their
social media profiles. The main things we're looking at is based
off of a couple points of attraction that we've identified. So
physical attraction, that's the obvious one. If someone's
physically attractive, that's great. It's you know, it helps if
they are not and there's other things that we point to for
attraction that includes their career, like what they are doing in
their lives. Do they travel a lot? Do they have a large circle of
friends? Are they married or single, you know, do They seem like
someone who dates a lot that always goes into the process of it.
And then artists, creatives, people who are actually doing work
that's always a positive. So we look forward to having that
10:09
as well. This is more intense in the last few job interviews. So
I'm already envisioning the council wearing robes. Like head to toe
like the manners just in the quarters of the club watching people.
Yes, yes. Taking notes
10:24
not like that. I mean, it's like it's missing. I'm sorry, it's out
It seems like that. It's it's just wording it's marketing jumbo
10:31
asking for references. Yeah, if you
10:32
have a member reference that helps you get in a lot faster, because
then we have someone we can go to but like, hey, should this person
be here?
10:37
Oh, I was gonna go with my like, second grade art teacher. Oh,
yeah.
10:40
If you can provide a reference letter of any previous
10:43
text with your second grade.
10:46
Not in second grade, mind you just ever. As an adult, it's not on
my bucket list. But now I'm like, shut up.
10:55
And she looked back to see that virus was.
10:57
Yeah. So what's your acceptance rate? For just, you know, a non
connected application just through the website or whatever you're
using,
11:05
when we initially started accepting three, it was around 10% of
those who applied, we've increased it just because it's getting to
be such a much wider base and so many more people are applying.
Also, it's like, it's almost like people know, in a sense that they
shouldn't apply, you know, so it seems like more people who are
applying are within that category of the person we're looking for.
It's mainly millennial audience, like our average age is 28. So a
lot of people who are older probably won't apply. If they're more
involved in like the kink scene or other things they might not
apply. Like, there's, it's interesting, because like we're building
and initially it was like, hard to determine who made sense to come
in. But now because there's so much visibility, it's the people who
should be here who are responding and the people who should be here
who are coming to us. So I think that's been really, really
encouraging to like, have a higher acceptance rate.
11:52
So do you send a letter of rejection?
11:54
Yeah, well, we send a letter of rejection and we make suggestions
on other places that they might be able to go on their sexual
journey and places that are better fit For them, we try to provide
them, you know, resources to find what they're looking for. We
don't want to stunt anyone's sexual experience or stunt their
sexual journey. So at times, we'll be like, oh, here's suggestions.
And we also have done articles on other places to go to and check
out and things that are more party focused. But yeah, within NSW
because of how the community is, and just knowing who's in the
room, like you kind of know who makes sense to have in a sense,
like, if you can't have a good conversation with someone, you
probably shouldn't sleep with them. And if you're like someone who
just looks like someone who you wouldn't want to talk to, it's
gonna be harder to see if anyone wants to have sex with you. So
this is probably not the best place. I'm
12:36
sorry, Louie ck, you can't be in there.
12:41
Yeah, exactly. I mean, that's another thing. It's like trying to
find that type of information. You never know with people, you
know.
12:46
So what's your normal like, for all the cold applications you
receive? What's the most common reason for you to say now,
12:53
wait two people ever send fake photos or fake applications
12:56
data happens to we noticed that sometimes where it's like, there's
only one photo On a social profile and like we can't get additional
information, and we don't accept those people, like if we can't get
enough information from you, you just get a rejection. And yeah, we
make it very clear. Like we're going to need to look through stuff
to know a little bit more about you and not just have random
strangers here.
13:14
But sorry, going back to Allison's question, what's the most common
reason that you would probably reject someone?
13:19
lack of information of them online?
13:21
When you have information? What would be the most common reason?
Like if you have a full obligation with everything you need? What's
your normal reject? I mean,
13:29
I think it comes down to since there's six different things we're
looking at, if like two or three of those things aren't fitting,
then it doesn't make sense. So it could be someone who is older,
but they are, you know, someone who travels and is more successful
or as a part of a creative scene, or it could be someone who is a
little bit more overweight, you know, deemed in a sense, like
possibly unattractive but there's other factors to them, that make
them interesting that make them worth being there that can provide
that conversation. The most common one again, is not having enough
information on them. Or they're answering questions in a really
like weird way where it's like, I want to fuck bitches. You know,
like if you're just saying that for your reasons join a sex club,
you're probably not going to get in.
14:12
Or, like bitches
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get money.
14:14
Yeah, for being exactly. Or I'd say that's one of the things I
mean, if you're avid Trump supporter, probably not.
14:24
I'm sure that it also gets to a point where you're like, they're
creative, but not in a way that we want. So they sing they play a
musical instrument, but they listed the kazoo.
14:32
Yeah, it's like you start looking through and you're
14:34
typically the funeral kazoo.
14:36
Ooh, a few funeral
14:40
that might work at the bed. Working sick that kazoo. That's the
question. Know how many events a month Do you host so we do for a
week. So it's about 20 minutes per month. And then we do a lot of
like speaker panels type things. On this week we're doing the pro
sex rally, or our goal is to introduce a new bill into New York
City Congress to protect the rights of the sexually exploited
that's what the pro sex. So we are drafting our bill the rally is a
way to inform people I don't think a lot of people realize how much
discrimination they can experience based off of their sexual
experiences. You know, they don't realize that you know, if you are
part of a sex club that could be potential for you to not get a
raise not get hired not succeed or your job. If you are polyamorous
and live in a triad, it might be a reason why you don't get housing
reason why you can't find a place to live. If you were former porn
star and you're trying to get a new career. It's the reason why you
can't get hired. A lot of these stories happen regularly. There's
usually lawsuits that are associated with it, but they kind of died
down or get settled. But we believe that there should be a law that
protects that, you know, just like you have laws protecting LGBTs
you should have laws that are protecting kinky people and poly
people and you know, people who are comfortable being naked, you
know, you shouldn't be discriminated against because, you know,
your news Leaked
15:55
makes complete sense. I mean, I feel like everybody has a naked
photo of themselves on their phone at one point or another
16:01
90% of millennial women have naked photos on their phone 90% like
everyone is taking nudes, everyone is sending nudes. Everyone has
this out there, you know, will this impact their careers? If it
comes out? will it impact their careers? If it's shared at the
office? What type of behavior happens at that point? And what
actual protections you have, you have none. People don't have any
protection against that type of stuff, which is why companies are
allowed to discriminate. And that's what we're trying to raise
awareness for right now.
16:26
That's awesome. So Bill is just in the early stages. So you
said
16:30
so we have a couple of members who are lawyers who are helping us
with the drafting of it some that are associated with Lambda Legal
so we're hoping we can get their team on board. The Pro sex rally
this week is like our first big announcement of it. We just
launched I'm pro sex org, which goes into what we're trying to
accomplish. We have some amazing speakers, including Sophie St.
Thomas acnezine, Remy Duran, just a lot of people who are writers
and journalists and already talking about sex in a big way. We have
Christina from guys. We thought we have horrible decisions, Mandy
from horrible decisions is coming on. So we're trying to get these
voices to To not only talk about what is the status of sex, where
are we right now? And what's happening, but also, how do we live
shamelessly? How do we get to a point where the shame that's
associated with sex is removed from people and they can actually
live a life that doesn't feel so shitty all the time, you know, and
doesn't feel so judgmental all the time. And every decision you
make around sex is not like a constant flow of negative feelings.
So, yeah, that's the purpose of it. That's what we're trying to
do.
17:26
It's funny because people don't realize how much stigma you know,
even in liberal cities that, you know, people involved in sex work,
even those that weren't even naked themselves. You know, we have
had stories on the show where people moved from LA and being
producers, editors, writers to New York, and they can't get jobs,
you know, in their respective fields because they wrote or edited
porn. Yes. And had to make up resumes. It's ridiculous.
17:53
I mean, I think that's the main issue. I think people view all
these things and enjoy all these things, and absorb all Sounds like
people watch porn, everyone pretty much watches porn, you know,
like you're enjoying it. But when it comes to the performers, when
it comes to the people who are associated with the industry, you're
treating them like lesser people. It's like you enjoy the benefits
while you get to make them suffer. That sounds pretty bad. So yeah,
it's just seeing something wrong in the world and feeling like
there's a way that we can collectively get something done. And with
2000 members and the types of people we have, we feel like the
influence of our community is enough to at least get more people
talking about it.
18:27
So you keep mentioning shame. And you mentioned much earlier on
that having a religious background has helped you and your work
what you're doing now. How has that impacted you? And when you were
in this religious background, did you feel shamed about your
sexuality? Was there some sort of awakening you went through?
18:42
I would say this definitely an awakening. I was raised Jehovah's
Witness. I'm like third generation. So my grandmother was a
witness. My mom was Jehovah Witness her whole life and then I was
Jehovah Witness from birth. It's a fairly strict religion where you
really do follow the doctrines of the Bible, but you also aren't
allowed to masturbate. You're not allowed to experience any sort of
sexual pleasure until you're ready. married.
19:00
Wait, what? Hold on. I didn't know about the non masturbation
thing.
19:03
Oh, yeah, yeah, masturbation is one of the worst things you can do.
You're supposed to report anytime you have feelings for
masturbation. So you're constantly telling these older men like,
Hey, I wanted to masturbate last night. And it's really weird when
you're 12. And talking about that. So
19:15
have you done that? Did you have to do that?
19:17
Yeah, I had to do that. Totally. Oh, God. It was it was awful. It
was very difficult. I remember like, one of my first sexual
experiences was with a friend of mine, Bobby, we were playing like
x men toys. And he taught me how to suck and Suck my cock. And it
was just like, this whole thing. And it felt very, like whatever,
you know, normal ish. And I remember telling my parents about it
and having to go through the whole process of going to the elders
and talking to them about this experience. And I'm like 14 years
old, and they basically rebuke you and then they do an announcement
in the congregation that you no longer have privileges and then no
one can talk to you. So it's this constant group decision that
we're going to make everyone feel as ashamed as possible about
their sex and their sexuality. And you know, not even going to the
fact that I was bisexual. I'm going to the back that Stuff like
that it's just this constant, you're always in a state of shame.
And it forces you to connect back to those people and connect to
that congregation and feel like that's the only place you can be.
Outside of that you don't have birthdays, you don't have any
celebrations of holidays, you can't associate with anything that's,
you know, religious or political. So you're not, you're not, you
know, singing the national anthem at school, you're not allowed to
associate with anyone outside the religion because everyone's kind
of seen as worldly. So you are stuck with only the people within
there who are just very much so self policing, and really self
policing in a way that keeps you restricted. And I found that, you
know, most of the people who are associated with very hardcore
religions live a very restrictive life. They're repressed, you
know, there's a oppressiveness to how they live and how they have
to act. And I felt that everyone outside of that felt very
expressive, like they were able to be free, they were able to share
what they wanted. But yeah, when I finally left the religion, it
was difficult. You know, it was difficult to kind of go into the
World Without any knowledge about sex, like, I forged my mom's
signature so I could take sex ed in like Middle School, like I was
so desperate for a sort of information.
21:02
Yeah, I have to get anything signed. We just took it from Los
Angeles, I guess. They're definitely different. Yeah, I
21:09
had to get it totally forged my mom's signature for to be allowed
to take sex out in fifth grade. And it was, it was important. It
was like it's the information you need.
21:17
So you're saying you wouldn't recommend being a Jehovah's
Witness?
21:21
You wouldn't recommend you know, not touching yourself.
21:24
Yeah, I would not suggest not touching yourself.
21:26
Oh, wait, actually a counterpoint to that. I had a boyfriend way
back in the day who was raised very Catholic, and he was not
allowed to touch himself. And so he would masturbate by humping a
pillow or a sleeping bag. From the time he started masturbating
onwards. So his ass was steel.
21:44
Like just perfect. And silver lining silver linings. Yes. Good
stuff.
21:50
Speaking of repressed religious shit, Are you guys familiar with
what sub segments of ultra Orthodox Judaism do when it comes to
underwear? No. Who. So after a woman has her period, she has a
certain amount of days, I think it's seven or 10 days where her
discharge has to, after that period of time be a certain color and
size. And if it's the wrong color in size, so bear in mind during
your period, you can't touch the males in the household. So if you
have a son, you can't hug him. If you have a husband, you can't
touch him. And you can't do it during that period after your period
as well by the end, so you have to actually take your panties and
send them to a rabbi. And if you can mail them to a rabbi, you
could give it to the Rabbi's wife or he has a special mailbox for
it. Oh, gosh.
22:43
How big is this mailbox? Like cuz
22:45
there's gonna be a lot of women. There's just
22:48
a rally with a whole bunch of like, just stained discharged. What
like, what are they collecting in the underwear? They just give
them the underwear.
22:55
What? Yeah, and if it's not the right color or size Or texture or
whatever, they have to restart this whole like seven or 10 day
waiting period before again, they could touch their sons or
husbands, I'm pretty
23:07
sure if we can get those panties, we can launch a site and sell
them. I feel like that would be a good way of thinking like
23:12
decoration like hanging from phone poles and stuff back to
work.
23:17
How do we find these mailboxes? What to do? If you are an Orthodox
Jewish woman somehow listening to the show and mail your panties,
email us info to girls and Mike, we want to know, please let us
know
23:30
that religion is it's a little nuts sometimes. But I think it does
good things to like, I feel like one of the things I definitely
took away from you know, being in such a close knit community for
so long is that feeling of wanting a community and I think without
that, the amount of times that you experience church or anything
else, like it's continuous, you're constantly studying, you're
constantly learning. So I think for me, it's definitely instilled a
desire to learn and to really gain a full knowledge of the things
I'm talking about from as many perspectives as possible. I was
trained for a very early age to teach people why their religion was
wrong, which is not the most difficult thing to teach people, which
is very difficult thing to teach people. I mean, like you, you
learn about when you're studying, you're setting about, you know,
Hinduism and Buddhism and Catholics and everyone else, you're
learning about how they think and what they think, and how to use
the Bible to convince them otherwise, how to get them away from
that thinking and how to change their thinking. So I think I
appreciate that, you know, being able to even when I didn't believe
in something, convince someone that it was true. And now I have
something I actually believe in. So it's much more gratifying when
I'm able to convince someone that this is not a bad thing. And sex
is not bad and weed is not bad. And all these rules that have been
established around it Really do come from a place of shame.
24:42
I'm sorry, but the millennials are injecting the marijuana so how
can we ever trust them? Going back to sex clubs, I have questions
about Well, a lot of things about you know what goes on in them or
how to prep yourself going to one or even the cleanup crew What
does that look like? How much do you pay them?
25:02
You get paid really well.
25:05
Paid really well
25:05
what dissolves lube best?
25:09
Having a lot of extra sheets, like you just throw out the sheets.
No, I think if you're thinking about attending a club, all the
clubs have like different rules, you want to find a club that has a
very clearly stated consent policy and a way in which you can
report things that are happening that might not make you feel
comfortable. You want to make sure you know who the organizers are.
For most millennials, you know, they don't really go to sex clubs,
you know, it's not like a thing they want to and some of them do go
to certain places, but it tends to be a one and done type audience.
So go once and never go again. They did the experience, they had a
bad experience or you're not the greatest experience. It's not on
their bucket list anymore. So they kind of move on from that and
you know, go the path of monogamy and stuff like that. I would say
that. You want to make sure the place how you're going to save, you
want to make sure that you're ready for that. If they have you
know, pages on fetlife. If they have pages on other places, look at
some of the people who are going It's always suggested to go with
someone always try to have someone with you, it's almost impossible
for women to go to sex clubs alone. So it's kind of a situation
where you know, you do want to have a friend with you.
26:10
Why is that? I was gonna say I haven't had any problem going to sex
clubs alone.
26:14
Oh, I'm saying like for some of the just like other places like it
might not feel, I don't know and I don't feel safe. If you're going
your first time you're going solo, like we always suggest, bring a
friend even here we say like, Hey, you know, definitely, we should
just bring someone. I'm just so you have someone here and there's
someone I know, it's just you never know, in certain situations, I
think it depends on the sex level you go to if you have one that's
more community focused. If you have one that's a little bit more
open about the consent policies. If you have ones that are run by
women, which is ideal, you're going to find that a lot of that
stuff is covered and you feel safer in those places. But if you're
going to have more established clubs that have been around for a
while and probably have a different audience, you might not feel as
safe. So it's really about just researching the club and getting to
know who might be there and some of the people you don't want to be
Just go so low and just not really have that connection. We have a
whole private community so members can connect to each other
beforehand, a seeking section where they can say like, Hey, I'm
going for my first time as anyone else going, and they start
connecting before talking to each other and then getting to know
each other even before they set foot inside the club, which helps
alleviate some of that stress. Dress Code wise, we always suggest
three layers. So there's the alpha that you come in, that
eventually comes off. We always suggest robes, have something that
you can cover yourself with. Keep track of your underwear, make
sure you have a place where you're leaving stuff and you can go
back to it because it gets really kind of crazy when we have to
return stuff. And we're like, I don't know if it's
27:37
under where it is anywhere as you never know. Do you have a coat
check for underwear?
27:41
No, just have a general coat check. Do you
27:43
have lockers set up as I've been to clubs with lockers
27:46
we don't have locker setup but we do have shelving and we do have
like places where people can leave their stuff. We might eventually
go through have lockers because like the where we have the check in
and people leave this up. There is always someone there we have on
nymphs basically these women And men dressed in white, who are
there to protect the space. So they do door check and they do the
bar, they kind of make sure everyone's good. If anyone ever has a
problem, you can go to an infant ask them for help, but they also
like watch the bags and stuff like that. So people aren't worried
about losing stuff.
28:16
You mentioned three layers. So I assume three is like code for you
know, it's like Alright, so you got your outer you've got your
normal and maybe like launch, right? What about like, if you piled
on clothing as if you were trying to sneak clothes through an
airport?
28:29
That's totally fine. Do that. Yeah, just like keep
28:31
your seven t shirt off.
28:33
Yes, like slowly. It's like a very long striptease as you're just
pulling your hair out.
28:38
We'll get there eventually.
28:42
Like before close it's like you're finally naked.
28:44
took seven hours. Can you walk us through what it would be like for
someone you just accepted a first time sex club first time member,
their first experience like they have a particular night you'd
recommend they come on like will they be guided through or they
just kind of kicked it of this pond and being like cool have fun
swimming.
29:02
Nope totally kicked in. Now we do an event called send noobs send
news is dedicated to all newbies. I teach a class in that called
How to ask for sex, which is focused on teaching members
enthusiastic consent. We also have a code of conduct, which goes
into how we all should behave NSFW and what we're expecting from
each other while we're here. The how to ask for sex class is, first
of all focus on like, why it's so difficult for us ask for sex, why
we're so afraid to vocalize the things we want sexually covering
everything from rejection to the lack of consent culture and porn
to religious upbringing and fear of like the feelings that we have.
And then it goes into how to practice enthusiastic consent and how
to make it sexy and how to make it interesting. And then members
have an opportunity to share some of their sex stories. They have
an opportunity to try out what we're teaching and start asking
people for simpler things like you know, massage your hand or touch
or things like that. And that kind of leads people into having more
of those conversations during sexual activities. The other thing is
like we do talk about consent culture. lot at NSFW. So the house
rules are respect hydrate, don't be a creeper. hydrate is an
obvious one, you know, keep your mind sane and keep yourself aware.
Like Don't be overly intoxicated Don't be, you know risks anyone
who's at the club house respect is all about consent and
understanding the respect of others of understanding people's
privacy, you know, not kind of being someone who's revealing anyone
in any way. And then don't be a creeper. Any creeper activities
that would make someone uncomfortable is what that falls under.
After each event, we send out a creeper report. So we allow members
to report anyone that made them feel uncomfortable during the
event. And then we respond and for every type of report, we have a
certain response that needs to be had. So from the more serious
stuff which is complete expulsion, and you know, anything we have
to do with police or anyone else like that, like really supporting
anyone who experiences that which hasn't happened. Thank god to
like some of the lighter stuff where it's like, oh, this woman
touched me without asking and like Grab my boob, you know, it's
like the most recent ones that we've had a lot of women on women
type stuff where women feel very comfortable touching someone
without asking and not really seeing that, you know, you have to
ask everyone just because you're the same gender doesn't mean it's
okay for you to touch someone and disrespect their autonomy. So,
yeah, it's a big range of stuff. We've had like smaller things
where it's like, this person found me on Instagram. It's like,
okay, like,
like, I don't know. Yeah, we try our best.
31:28
You mentioned for people to stay hydrated Do you offer water
bottles or have a snack machine actually do great as far as snacks
if I bring a snack Do I have to bring enough for everyone?
31:42
For haystacks? I mean, we have. We have some snacks and foods
available here like there's usually either fruit or some little
bites and things. We have tons of water available. We try to keep
everyone hydrated tons of like mixers and stuff like that.
Wait,
31:54
what is orgy food is crunchy
31:57
food, like bites like bites is a rover or jif I mean, I've been to
orgies where someone's mom made rigatoni like it was like a really
weird one like there's just like they had a whole buffet. I was
just like watching all these people who like I probably wouldn't
want to have sex with just eating from the buffet and like kind of
going through and I'm just like this is this is not sexy wises
athlete. It's a different type of environment. I think I but yeah,
no cheeses, no garlic. Oh, wait, nothing that makes your breath
smell bad. No onions. Like keep away from things like that. You
want to have smaller bite type foods. Trader Joe's has a whole
bunch of options for stuff like that if you're doing something at
home and trying to host your own, but yeah, stay away from anything
that would affect someone's breath. For fruit juices go things like
pineapple, fresh berries and fruits even like whole slices of
pineapple are great because those who just help and enhance the
experience also affects the taste of your vaginal fluids and
terminal fluids, which is nice.
32:51
Yeah, that's about it. So I'm hearing don't bring pineapple on
pizza to an orgy or do
32:56
not not you can bring the pineapple leave the pizza.
Sara from dairy no dairy caught my cause gas like you never know I don't know you have to like be very aware I would stay away from cheeses we stay away from garlic we stay away from onions we stay away from anything that will have that impact chilies are good though like things that are natural projects are good
33:14
don't bring the cancer like refried beans
33:18
leave those at home once I had a lovely foursome with these three
guys and beforehand I was really tired and I drank a coffee and a
mountain dew bad idea. Don't do that.
I learned yes really late and I had to drive was
fine. It wasn't fine. It was not fine. It was definitely not fine.
33:42
Coffee and Mountain Dew so I assumed separate not together.
33:46
No it was like I had a coffee before I drove down and then halfway
down I had stopped for gas and I was like I'll just get a mountain
dew cuz I'm so tired and then it was just like this is horrible.
This is the worst. I had a great night anyhow, but it was
definitely not the best Food choice and then I called one of my
exes and I was like, why did this happen? And he was like, cuz
you're an idiot. And I was like, Okay, that makes sense.
34:08
I feel like eventually I should come out with a listicle of
appropriate orgy foods. So pigs in a blanket. Yay, nay. Okay, so
those are a pass. Yeah, you
34:17
can you can do I think the list is a great idea. People need to
know people need to know they don't think about these things.
They're like, Oh, we're gonna host an orgy at our house. Let's like
do this and then everyone's bloated and they made too big of a meal
and no one's a fuck yeah, you have to be very aware like you want
to give them enough energy to get through the night and a couple
hours but not too much energy, whether authority sick and
tired.
34:36
And you also want to keep track of like finger food, the sugar Enos
the oil of it, are you gonna have to wash your hands? Are you going
to give someone a yeast infection if you are if you don't do it
fully, like I prefer, like things you can get on toothpicks. That's
great. So you just pick it out. You don't have to touch the food or
one bite, you're done.
34:54
I do eventually want to do a cooking book or more of like a hosting
book, like how to host a sex party. And I'd be like, you know,
hosting For threesomes, foursomes and more Sims and it just be
like, how to set up your home how to like do all the things that
you want to create is a great title kind of like the guide to like
hosting your own sex parties. Because it just there is a lot you
learn within this phase but especially with this type of thing,
like more people are interested in it. People ask me all the time,
like, Oh, I want to host my own even members are regularly like
hosting their own things. So yeah, I feel a guidebook would be
really great.
35:24
How about BYOD bring your own toys that a thing that's
encouraged.
35:27
Yeah, that's encouraged. That's definitely a thing. I mean, we have
some, like, impact toys that are available because they're not
insertion toys. So it's like, easy to have them here. But yeah,
always bring your own toys. And I would say the one thing that we
get asked for the most is like pegging devices, like everyone wants
to peg or like every woman Oh, not everyone, but like a lot of
women want to like have the strap ons and like run around the house
and like play with other women. So bring your own pegging
devices.
35:52
Okay, so I know that you know, you can't divulge stuff that happens
within your club, obviously, but you know, you Have a history now
of going to sex clubs and you know you to Allison, what are some of
the craziest or most interesting or fascinating things that you
guys have ever seen? I don't know or experience I've heard about a
clown sex orgy at this point. So
36:12
yeah, there's definitely a context for it. I mean, I think it's a
it's interesting like i've you know, had women who like walk in
they're specifically looking for gangbanger like I'm here to have a
gangbang. And it's like, okay, and you just like kind of see them,
like just really approaching people and be like, you, you you and
just like going for that type of thing. That sounds so nice. I went
to another party where this guy was getting fisted by his
girlfriend and she was like, had gloves on was missing him and he
was holding a little mirror with his feet, so you can see it. So he
was like, kind of positioning itself and like looking at what she's
doing.
Yeah, it was it seemed very dangerous.
36:49
Wasn't there someone around who could hold it for him?
36:51
Right, you know, but they were like on the bed doing their
thing.
36:54
This is why friends help.
36:56
It's like, hey, can someone hold this mirror while I get tested?
That was interesting. When I do a big birthday party called All
Saints Day. It's a sack religious celebration where everyone is
required to dress religiously. So you get to see things like, you
know, Rabbi, you know, fucking someone in a job, you get to see
lots of Catholic people getting together and fucking you get to see
like everyone in costume kind of, you know, living out a lot of
good press feelings and being okay with it. So that one's always
interesting. And we hope that you know, once a year, it's about 300
400 people. And yeah, it's just like a big birthday celebration,
but also like this big massive performance type thing. So I think
there I've definitely seen some of the most interesting things
because everyone's in costume and you're like, Okay, this is crazy.
But you have someone like dresses a Buddha like giving head to, you
know, some dude in a Mormon outfit.
37:48
Of course, someone there is like, No, I have to represent all
religions. So they put on a call lander on their top of the head,
as opposed to farion
37:56
Yeah, I mean, we have, there's like witches as people dressed. Like
Jedi eyes. It's an Jedi is an actual religion. So that's fine. Is
it? Yeah, it's a tax free organization. You can be an official Jedi
and believe in middle kondia and like the whole Jedi practice, and
it's a tax free organization.
38:14
I've met the guy who runs the church of bacon. Yeah.
38:18
So I don't believe it's tax free. I think I was more of like, are
you see nonprofit? I think
38:22
it might be a non profit. I know you could definitely get ordained
as a minister to marry people.
38:27
Yeah, there's
38:28
there's also dude ism. That's a new one that came out. Yes. Off the
dude from The Big Lebowski. God, I hate that movie. Yeah.
38:37
Hey, the porn parody of it was fantastic.
38:40
I hope it was better than the movie. Actually. Yes.
38:43
That's what I figured. Let's see what other crazy churches are
there. I'm looking for church of cannabis. That's another one
that's out there. There's that one evangelical church that believes
everyone should they get married to the AK 47 are there the assault
rifles, that's one and there's also one that does Let's look it up.
There's someone actually dressed up like that for the last All
Saints say they like wear these sashes and they take photos with
their rifles and it's like a whole church like blessing because
they brought their rifles to church. I think it's really I don't
want to
39:13
have a pin that says NRA on it.
39:17
There's a lot of crazy religious things out there that just get
away with a lot of bad things for the most part,
39:25
then Tom Cruise strolls in because he has to rep Scientology,
39:29
Tom Cruise's that the orgy
39:31
that's a downer. And then we've got like Eyes Wide Shut happening,
and it's so bad times for everyone.
39:37
So as far as the themes, I love the concept of themed orgies. And I
was trying to think to myself, if I had an orgy, how would I want
to themed and I don't know, I mean, I tried coming up with some but
I don't know if I could ever run them by me. Maybe Daniel, you can
like for example, you can have a group of people having sex in an
elevator called the up and coming club. That's hard.
40:01
They only get the amount of time they have to go up and down the
elevator to get their stuff go
40:05
and help her in a tall building or a very short one depending on
their company.
40:10
Let's see what the Empire State buildings up to if we can rent the
elevator for a night.
40:13
I'm sure you could probably do like even a Model UN themed one
where you have sex from people from every different country.
40:18
I feel we're already doing that we have really good representation
of people. Like it's really not everyone's
40:23
from Djibouti and Bhutan. I don't understand.
40:25
You and base one will be fun. Like we just need one for each
country. The first person who rsvps for Russia gets it and the
first person RSVP is for this country gets in and like just keep
going down the list.
40:37
That'd be really cool. That would
40:39
be really interesting is like if you're stealing, like we're
getting maybe make make that happen.
40:45
Oh, you need to do one that's all breakfast themed.
40:48
We do that Saturday morning cartoons. Oh,
40:50
it's a missed opportunity to call it The Breakfast Club.
40:52
That's good too. We used to do one where it's more of like a after
hours thing. So it was like Sunday morning and we'd play like
Saturday morning cartoons. And have like a whole thing of like
cereal of like multiple, like every single you can imagine and like
all this breakfast stuff and it would just be like chill and fuck
and watch cartoons.
We don't do that anymore
41:14
Have you guys seen by the way like the Kellogg's space in Union
Square?
41:18
Yeah What is I don't
41:20
know. So Kellogg's cereal company rents out this massive space
which you know i would love if you could just rent it out for an
orgy because it would be perfect if you continue doing those
specifically themed cereal and you know cartoon ones if you ever
wanted I know but I'm just saying if you want work because they
have like a huge two cans, Sam in the background. They already have
all the cereals there. They even have these chairs that are swings
so sex swings are already
41:48
there. That's perfect. I mean, yeah, we'll contact Kellogg's I
think they've you make this work.
41:53
What else are they doing?
41:56
Some cross promotion
41:57
market to the next generation.
41:59
You Do you want to get those millennials back? Remind them that
they can eat cereal after sex?
42:04
What else is Count chocula? Therefore a little sucky.
42:08
Not so bad,
42:10
like, blueberry balls.
42:14
I know like it's not gonna get any better. No, no.
42:18
I like I still want to know like this moment or set of moments that
made you realize that what was happening within your family's
religion was not for you, and how you got over that and how long
that took? I think it was Jurassic Park.
42:33
Like once I saw Jurassic Park and realize that evolution is
probably real, it kind of made everything else fall apart. For a
long time I was taught that dinosaur bones and other evidence of
prehistoric life was just the devil putting things in the world to
confuse us and to get us away from God. But after seeing Jurassic
Park, I mean, I saw that T Rex, I think was real.
It was all downhill from there. Really.
pretty great. I love it dinosaurs doesn't really work with a hyper Christian religion.
43:06
Have you considered ever doing a dinosaur themed sex party?
43:11
See, this is Alice This is what I'm talking about Jurassic World
triple X has been out now for like a month and a half and I was
like, should we watch it? Or are we watching a porn and you were
like, no, but we could have watched Jurassic World triple x for
this.
Yeah, and they're in full dyno costume.
When I asked you if we were watching anything that sounds like
43:32
is there a peg us or acid? Because I haven't watched it because you
were like, We don't need a porn for this one. Okay, fine. Then
we'll find someone to review Jurassic Park themed porn because I
need to know if there's a mega sore ass and it's I Oh, that's my
favorite dinosaur.
43:51
Perfect, perfect.
43:53
A double directs.
43:54
You should really just pull up a screen grab from Jurassic World
triple x, just like your company. Pull it up just look
44:01
okay Jurassic World parody Okay, that asks What if the dinosaurs
were porn stars? Oh no. Look I'm only interested if there's a
tricera Coxon.
44:15
Just get like a paleontologist and have them watch it
44:18
when we could just talk about it. This is amazing if you
44:21
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44:54
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45:01
that'd be great. Jeff Goldblum reviews Jurassic World triple except
for your quality stuff.
45:05
You know, he performs in a like a jazz club in LA at least once a
month. My friends go get a hit show. Just a couple weeks,
45:13
we'll be talking about the recto Saurus. Yeah, I can't stop. I'm
sorry.
45:18
Okay. It's okay. You're helping me sort out my Christmas card
problem. So it's this year is like, what do I do with my Christmas
card a couple years ago, it was like Santa Claus, but a dick here
before that it was the manger scene, but everyone was decks and
this year I like I want to paint it, scan it in and then mail it
out. But I don't have my full concept yet.
45:39
I'm just now picturing tons of people wearing that classic T rex
costume. But with a deck hanging out like an inflatable deck
45:47
or like a real deck or what do we think a real toe?
But would it be attached to the person wearing it or would they have gotten it from something else?
45:56
It could be a cutout? Could it be like one of the bad dragon dildos
Yeah,
46:02
you know, it'd be great if we could set up the the AIG one and the
one that inserts the AIG but have it become like an automatic thing
and you could run around in that shooting those jello eggs at
people and just reloading from inside the dinosaur costume. That
would be a great Easter thing for you to do Daniel, like put the
egg toss but that
46:21
I think dinosaurs for Easter Make sense? Like it actually works
100% sense I used to go to a party that was just for Easter. It was
like the bad bunnies club or something else like that. And it's
basically you'd go through this obstacle course of things you'd
have to do so one was like they'd paint your butt with easter eggs.
One was like this really badass like Easter Bunny Dom who would
like put you through things and like basically bunny training, you
go through bunny training with like a tail on your back. And they
put you in cages initially and like load you up and they're like,
come up bunnies and like you go around through all these
activities. It's pretty fun. You have to get all six stamps of all
the activities that they do
46:59
you know I feel like easter egg hunts are kind of a newer thing
that only happened like the last 1520 years I don't know or maybe I
just never did it was during it when I was little. Okay, I never
did it. Where'd you grow up though? New Jersey. There you go seems
like a place I'm happy sir x.
47:13
No New Jersey does not get fun things.
47:18
No, we get Italian. Yeah, exactly. That's what I meant.
47:22
Sort of finding eggs. It was always finding pizza. I never
understood it. It's very weird. So Daniel, where can our listeners
find you find more of you or your sex club?
47:32
It's NSFW calm. That's the main site for everything. Pro sex is I'm
pro sex work which is the bigger initiative that we have and that
we're pushing forward now. And then I'm just Daniel st on
everything I say ymt.
47:47
And Alison, thank you for joining us our guest host today. where
can our listeners find you under their bed? drooling,
47:54
really erotic drooling under their bed when I'm not there, you Find
me at that. mcknight.com that's midnight with ck not just to see
and on Twitter occasionally also at that McKnight Well, I hope to
find you under my bed drooling. Looking at you.
48:13
It's an open invitation. Oh,
48:15
is there room under there? How much room
48:19
many other people are under their hours?
48:22
What is going on? It's always Jeff Goldblum and Richard Edinburg.
And what about Joseph Gordon Levitt? Fair enough? I'm under that
bed.
48:31
Five minutes.
48:33
Sam Neil can be pushed to the side. No, no, I was just I just
watched in the mouth of madness. He's got to stay right there.
48:39
Gonna be like one of the better afternoons
48:42
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49:00
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49:03
Quick, quick edition Daniel, where can people apply to join?
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49:09
just for the website? It's like ns dash f w calm for slash join.
And you can also like review. We have a bunch of our reviews and
you know, people's stories and stuff I haven't shared and just like
an understanding of like how big it is, in a sense, like it gets
you through, and then the applications are right there.
49:25
Okay. And if you are someone who reviews his sex club, please
review mostly the themes. That's what I want to know. I'm holding
you up to the United Nations theme though.
49:35
I mean, I've been really thinking about the dinosaur thing for
Easter. That's hilarious. Like that
49:40
would be really cool. And what's great is I think they give you an
egg mold, which means you can get some plastic mosquitoes and do
half the mold put the plastic mosquito and and do the other half
the mold. That's pretty cool.
49:52
It's like, it's just like,
49:53
Yeah, but it's eggs and you just go around, you could fire I don't
know. I love event planning. This is the thing. I do. That would be
amazing.
50:02
If you're an event planner who needs a career change event plans,
sex clubs, and
50:08
that's so hard. All right.
50:10
Well, guys, thanks for joining us this week. Thank you so much.
Thank you. All right. Bye bye
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